I am the mama bear; I grew her in my belly for nine months. Don't mess with me! I am seriously considering buying Scout a onesie that says "My mom doesn't want your advice." Now don't get me wrong, I love advice and sharing pregnancy experiences with my friends and family. However, if I have only met you a couple of times and you message me to say "Put your daughter in the window sill to help with her red skin I am going to get irritated." I didn't give birth to a house plant, the doctors checked her levels... oh and she is my baby! Yes, I am a new mom but, I will figure it out. Women have been doing this since the beginning of time.
There is something that happens after a woman has a child. We become all knowing and naturally aware of how to care for our little blessings. Maybe, we don't know specific details like how to store breastmilk but, that is learned. I mean there is a maternal side that kicks in. We just know how to bounce, soothe, rock, comfort and provide for them. This instinct can also, makes us very defensive. Well, it makes me defensive anyhow. I feel my chest puff up and my feathers get ruffled when people question me or give me that look like oh... "You're on her schedule." Yes.. Yes.. We are on our baby’s schedule. That works for us. If she wakes up we tend to her. Just because you set an alarm every two hours to feed your baby doesn't mean I am going to . We do what's best for us. Breastfeeding not your thing? Well it's my thing and I tried damn hard to supply enough to feed her. So If I decide to nurse passed a year, so be it. It doesn't bother me so it shouldn't bother you. Oh, and DON'T wake our sleeping baby. If she is sleeping it's because she is tired. She is not hungry or she would be crying. So let her be. I know she is cute and you want to hold her but, you can when she is awake. Keep in mind while my precious baby is sleeping I am going to try take a shower, scarf down some food and maybe do some dishes so for the love of God don't wake her. Not only is becoming a mother new to me but, I just gave birth so I am emotional, overtired, and probably a bit crabby. So if you offer some suggestions, please make sure I asked for them or at the very least make sure we are close enough that I would appreciate it. The best advice I have ever received was to respond to the naysayers with this. " I am glad that worked for you but, I will be following my motherly instincts. So thanks but, no thanks. I have got this. My instincts are pretty spot on.
There is something that happens after a woman has a child. We become all knowing and naturally aware of how to care for our little blessings. Maybe, we don't know specific details like how to store breastmilk but, that is learned. I mean there is a maternal side that kicks in. We just know how to bounce, soothe, rock, comfort and provide for them. This instinct can also, makes us very defensive. Well, it makes me defensive anyhow. I feel my chest puff up and my feathers get ruffled when people question me or give me that look like oh... "You're on her schedule." Yes.. Yes.. We are on our baby’s schedule. That works for us. If she wakes up we tend to her. Just because you set an alarm every two hours to feed your baby doesn't mean I am going to . We do what's best for us. Breastfeeding not your thing? Well it's my thing and I tried damn hard to supply enough to feed her. So If I decide to nurse passed a year, so be it. It doesn't bother me so it shouldn't bother you. Oh, and DON'T wake our sleeping baby. If she is sleeping it's because she is tired. She is not hungry or she would be crying. So let her be. I know she is cute and you want to hold her but, you can when she is awake. Keep in mind while my precious baby is sleeping I am going to try take a shower, scarf down some food and maybe do some dishes so for the love of God don't wake her. Not only is becoming a mother new to me but, I just gave birth so I am emotional, overtired, and probably a bit crabby. So if you offer some suggestions, please make sure I asked for them or at the very least make sure we are close enough that I would appreciate it. The best advice I have ever received was to respond to the naysayers with this. " I am glad that worked for you but, I will be following my motherly instincts. So thanks but, no thanks. I have got this. My instincts are pretty spot on.
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