To all of the mother's out there who have thought at one point or another... oh my god he has no idea. Now don't get me wrong ladies not all men are clueless and some are more than others.
After having my daughter and stepping into this role as mother I have realized just how much a mother does. In turn I have also, witnessed my husband in his father role. Being a mother is a constant job 24 hours a day job we never "clock out." Even when our children are sleeping we are still aware and listening for them. Even if they are with a baby sitter we are still thinking of them and constantly checking our phones. The father's role I believe was designed to have that "clock out" tendency. It seems to be human nature.
When was the last time your husband said I am going run to Menards and then head to the golf course for some holes AND I am taking all the kids!? Probably not very often, if ever. Now let me ask you this when was the last time you went with all of your kids to the grocery store, the dry cleaner, the post office, the doctors, the vet, zoo, the park, the bathroom, anywhere really. They go with you every where cause, your the mom. It is the natural flow for the children to be with their mothers. Think back to caveman days the mothers nursed the babies while the fathers hunted therefore, men have been programmed by evolution to be clueless. Now when I say "clueless" I mean that in the best possible way because, its not their fault. I think that woman are at fault a bit too.. See, woman assume things. We assume our husbands are going to read our minds. I've learned men do not have this ability. I remember when Scout was a few weeks old I was nursing her on the couch and there was a sink full of dirty dishes. I was thinking very loudly in my own head why isn't Troy washing those dishes? What is his problem? I'm over here feeding our baby and the dishes need to be done. I felt myself staring, shooting daggers into his back and thinking he's so clueless! Why isn't he Helping me? After a couple minutes I realized I needed to ask him! I assumed he knew what I needed help with and he was just sitting there thinking "my wife's got this mommy house wife thing under control, She's got this," So ladies what I have learned is a little gentle nudge does the trick usually. Honestly though I just think us "mommies" do such a good job they just don't want to mess with perfection.
After having my daughter and stepping into this role as mother I have realized just how much a mother does. In turn I have also, witnessed my husband in his father role. Being a mother is a constant job 24 hours a day job we never "clock out." Even when our children are sleeping we are still aware and listening for them. Even if they are with a baby sitter we are still thinking of them and constantly checking our phones. The father's role I believe was designed to have that "clock out" tendency. It seems to be human nature.
When was the last time your husband said I am going run to Menards and then head to the golf course for some holes AND I am taking all the kids!? Probably not very often, if ever. Now let me ask you this when was the last time you went with all of your kids to the grocery store, the dry cleaner, the post office, the doctors, the vet, zoo, the park, the bathroom, anywhere really. They go with you every where cause, your the mom. It is the natural flow for the children to be with their mothers. Think back to caveman days the mothers nursed the babies while the fathers hunted therefore, men have been programmed by evolution to be clueless. Now when I say "clueless" I mean that in the best possible way because, its not their fault. I think that woman are at fault a bit too.. See, woman assume things. We assume our husbands are going to read our minds. I've learned men do not have this ability. I remember when Scout was a few weeks old I was nursing her on the couch and there was a sink full of dirty dishes. I was thinking very loudly in my own head why isn't Troy washing those dishes? What is his problem? I'm over here feeding our baby and the dishes need to be done. I felt myself staring, shooting daggers into his back and thinking he's so clueless! Why isn't he Helping me? After a couple minutes I realized I needed to ask him! I assumed he knew what I needed help with and he was just sitting there thinking "my wife's got this mommy house wife thing under control, She's got this," So ladies what I have learned is a little gentle nudge does the trick usually. Honestly though I just think us "mommies" do such a good job they just don't want to mess with perfection.
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